Things To Do Before 2019!
Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.
– Bradley Whitford
Spring has sprung, my Southern hemisphere peeps! Yay and finally. We’re hitting heatwave levels of glorious weather, and for all you northerners prepping for autumn… Good luck with that! 🙂
The month is nearly over and yet there is still so much to do before we move into the new year! Eeek! I have to pass my exam for my coaching diploma, amongst many other things. So I decided to put together a list of things that I invite you to prioritise.
Spring Clean! Or just, clean!
I don’t know about you but I usually grab September by its jasmine flowers and go full tilt into spring cleaning mode. It’s not really about getting rid of stuff; the physical act of getting a bit sweaty, jamming to music, taking the time to clean, polish and dust around my little abode gives me a sense of renewal and pride. I can start afresh (to make a brand new mess, lol) but more importantly, to intentionally focus my energy on my surroundings. We become so focused on city hustling that we often switch to auto-pilot. For me, cleaning my troll hole (I say this with utmost endearment, I promise) is quite similar to a bear waking from hibernation.
Adding to that point, whilst cleaning your place, have a look at your posessions and assess if there’s anything that you’re holding onto that no longer serves you.
The concept of minimalism has taken the world by storm; thousands of people are not only tidying their space but also making sure they are not just hiding the things they’re secretly hoarding. Since living abroad, I always used to imagine that when I moved to a new home all of my stuff would have to fit into my suitcase and if it didn’t, I would have to get rid of something to make it so. That idea sort of stuck with me, even though I have no immediate plans to move any time soon. We have a few sentimental items in the flat but mainly our things are functional.
Marie Kondo, look her up (she’s legit af), says that once an object no longer brings you happiness, you should thank it for its service and then choose to let it go. What an amazing way to say goodbye to things that you feel bad about getting rid of because your uncle’s wife’s mother gave it to you before she died and even though, you don’t really like it, if you throw it away you’ll feel guilty so you hide it at the back of the top storage cupboard… Now, really. Does that serve you?
Keep only those things that speak to your heart. Then take the plunge and discard all the rest. By doing this, you can reset your life and embark on a new lifestyle.
Many people associate minimalism with the extreme idea that you need to have as few possessions as possible. Nothing could be more wrong; it’s more about creating space to appreciate the objects you love. Not keeping stuff for “just in case”.
Who I am, what I am, is the culmination of a lifetime of reading, a lifetime of stories. And there are still so many more books to read. I’m a work in progress.
– Sarah Addison Allen
Education nowadays is only usually recognised when it’s of the formal variety. Okay, hold on, I realise how broad that statement is, but I do feel that if you don’t have some sort of paper behind your name that people go, “oh”. It takes more than a college degree to make one a person of education. Informal also counts, such outreach programmes, short courses, documentaries, reading, etc all empower people way more than just attending university.
If there’s something that you’re interested in and want further knowledge on, Google is your best friend! Get yourself out of your safe space and learn a second language, go for dance classes, read that self-help book everybody’s talking about.
2018 has been the most noticeable year, I feel, that people are taking the plunge to pursue their dreams; starting their own at-home businesses, more and more of the older generation getting on the social media train, youngsters opting not to jump straight into varsity but figuring out what it is that they really want beforehand.
Get out there! There are 3 more months to the year. What do you want to get started on so that you can start next year with a bang?
Especially yourself. When we stop looking outwards and begin to focus inwards, solutions tend to follow. “Am I truly happy?” Yes. That’s great! 🙂 … What if the answer is no? Question further (kind of like those Y/N diagrams), “What can I implement into my daily life to change that?”
Sometimes it’s questions like, “oh shit, IS it me?” AM I the problem here?” If the answer is genuinely no then high five to evaluating your faults and kudos to you for stepping up. If the answer is yes, then high five to evaluating your faults and kudos to you for stepping up. See it’s not about the answer (okay kinda is but not today’s point), it’s about asking the right question to make you look and know yourself better. And that is a beautiful thing, self-recognition.
Invite gratitude into your daily life!
Gratitude is the number one most under-rated emotion that we humans experience. See, with G-power, one contextualises their life, which in turn helps you to step into your power and take ownership of your life and circumstance. Because not everything is bad, there IS happiness to be found, IF you decide to see it. And I’m not talking about the things that we all know that we’re supposed to say: “I’m grateful for my family.” That’s great, buddy and I’m really happy for you. However, I’m not sure about you but there are days when I’m just not. There are other days when I really am. And that’s true gratitude. I’m talking about the real deal, a Christmassy feeling all year round kind of happiness. That great feeling we get when we realise that a holiday is coming up. Yeah, that. Gratitude gives you that.
So what 3 things are you grateful for today? Write in the comments and let me know. Maybe it’s something that I’m currently taking for granted.
Voice your hurt feelings!
This has been a biggy for me and, to be honest, I think it is for many people. We’re so concerned with being NICE. Fuck nice. I strive to be authentic and that means sometimes you have to do the scary things, like telling your loved ones how you feel. This is something that I’ve been focusing on for the past few months and let me just tell you, it is absolutely life-changing. It’s not about venting at people but really opening up and being vulnerable. It hasn’t always been received well and that’s okay, people aren’t always ready to be defenseless; it’s super hard. But more often than not, your other person simply doesn’t realise or feels just as hurt as you, and you wouldn’t know this because you both say nothing, easier to add another brick to the wall around your heart and that’s that. No, there is another way to interact in this world… I choose love. Every time… 9 times out of 10. 🙂
Stop putting shit off!
The longer you don’t do that thing, the longer the ghost of it will haunt you. Bury that bad boy. Let it live in the after life with all its other completed accomplishment-pals!
Yeah, that’s it on that.
And that’s it, guys! 🙂 Show up, speak up, life up! Because, at the end of the day, life is an attitude, and we shouldn’t wait until next year to do what we can to make ours better.